Many of us mediums get our information from a variety of methods and senses. Some people feel direct contact with spirit, some say their guides give them information, some describe it as a psychic ability to tap into universal knowledge, and some of us are able to tap in to a variety of methods to tap into the energy of the spirit. I've learned that while I connect to an image of someone who is in spirit, It feels like I'm basically giving a live psychic reading. How I know if I'm actually connected is when they have direct messages, I feel cold spots near or around me, I feel the energy change in the room, or may even see a flash of light or something legit out of the corner of my eye. I tend to have much more static electricity on me on days that I'm doing a great deal of readings. Also, I tend to feel my energy shift. Then my other senses sometimes kick in.
Sometimes, if I'm tapping into psychic energy at first (with a photo of a deceased person) and trying to make a connection or tap into universal knowledge, I have found through the course of "the hard way", it tends to be respectful for all parties to simply start by asking spirit if they are willing to be read. Sometimes of course I don't always ask because I feel their presence without having to look at a picture of the specific deceased in question, and it's obvious they want read--even if the inquirer didn't even ask for spirit to pop in. Other times, I get a bit excited and jump to conclusions on accident (admittedly) as I think I feel the excitement or am picking up on the energy of the inquirer or the spirit. But I've learned it's good to be mindful of asking spirit first if they want read. And, during those eventful loopy moments where I forget, I sincerely offer a heart felt apology if I'm the least bit concerned I overstepped a boundary of spirit. Most of them I suspect understand genuineness and sincerity, and realize that as we are trying to form a connection, we may tend to pick up on certain pieces of information they'd rather not have us share.
I bring this up because, as we intentionally attempt to make contact with a specific spirit upon inquirer request, it may take a few moments for us to settle in and connect with the energy, and with trusting our own intuitive knowledge bank. Sometimes the first few minutes feels like a connection is weak, this can be due to a variety of reasons (our needing grounding, cleansing/clearing, psychic protection, our confidence level) spirit may not want to be read or may not be ready, etc. Most inquirer's will wait patiently for us to develop a connection. But sometimes it is exacerbated by slow internet connection speed. I've noticed, with a particularly strong link with spirit, and I'm doing a reading with my phone, the text starts to lag and stick. But if you are not noticing this occurrence, take note. It could very well mean that there is not a strong enough link to form a connection.
If we don't have strong connections and it is obvious after 5-10 minutes the first thing that we should do is accept that it is nothing personal. Own accountability where we can, add that to your own inventory to analyze at a later time, and move on. Acknowledge the fact that spirit may have its reasons for not connecting, and they could be very trivial at this moment in time even! We have to keep in mind what is best for our inquirers and clients, as it can do more harm than good to persist with a reading long after it became obvious to readers and inquirers that our connection may not be strong. And there is no harm in bowing out, and leaving a reading open to other readers. Intuitively, I've always "felt" when it is time for me to gracefully bow out. I've learned that as I keep a healthy dose of confidence and trust in what spirit gives me (less the human ego) this becomes a very simple process. Sometimes, our inquirers want to hear from loved ones so desperately, they use justifications and other cognitions to assure to themselves that the message they are receiving is in fact from their loved one, when in fact, it may not be at all.
I've learned that spirits who choose to connect through me I can relate to on some form personality wise, music interest, work interests, similarities in importance of birth months etc. It's strange how we identify with like minded individuals and spirits! I always tend to figure it out after the fact, or say, gee, although I feel this spirit likely has some skeletons he or she is keeping private, I totally can dig their energy and would probably have befriended them if I met them in real life! I'm always honored to be able to get a connection when I can and thank spirit and their loved one for letting me read. It is a genuine treasure for me to "meet" spirit without having actually "met" them. I feel I've learned so much from spirit.
Most of all, I have learned to trust in the information that spirit provides, and in doing so, I'm able to trust myself even though I still have a level of vulnerability of putting myself out there and giving messages without any absolute scientific evidence to back it up, it gets better with practice.
Anyhow, for some reason I felt compelled to put a short blog up based on some recent experiences I've had reading over the past year online. I hope this is helpful to new online readers and newer readers in general.
And always, no matter what, remember the fact that there is absolutely no place what so ever in this type of work for Ego. Those who accuse others of "ego" may want to ask themselves why. It is all too common that what "urks" us about another person is a direct reflection about ourselves. I used to think that people who spoke like this were full of ego. When in reality, I learned recently that there is a vast difference between those with ego and those with a healthy self-concept.
Also, you should never feel uncomfortable around a psychic or medium. If you do, trust that feeling. My personal experience ignoring that "gut" feeling led to a psychic attack from a couple of gifted mediums. As a skeptic, I became a fast believer in the importance of psychic protection!
Lots of light and love to you all!
Remember all of us has an inner light. We may not be working psychically, but angels and yours (and even others') higher powers tend to work through us for the highest good if we allow it. It could be as simple as a gesture as being a good listener, or having a good bedside matter. There's an angel in each of us!
© Christina Raven Wolfe